– By Jonathan Michalski
People are an interesting study. There’s much insight we can gain from observing people’s behavior. Perhaps though the person we neglect to study most carefully is ourselves. Not that we are not often thinking of ourselves. We are always thinking of ourselves. But when we are observing others, we can easily highlight areas in them to criticize, while being totally ignorant or delusional about our own weaknesses. We all form opinions of ourselves. These opinions shaped by family, friends, society, and our own egos, give us an identity in the world. High school yearbooks have categories for identifying people. There is “most likely to succeed,” “most likely to run for mayor,” “athlete,” “artist” etc. There are also negative statements identifying us that we seek to be rid of. As we age, our method of self-identification becomes more and more engrained in us. This is made so much apparent by how hard we work to maintain the identifying features we are happy that people know us for. Celebrities who are known for their beauty struggle hard against the work time does on our physical appearance. Athletes who are known for being the best in their discipline chafe against the new generation of talent that gradually takes over their pedestal. A man in his 50s buys a sports car and is diagnosed as having a mid-life crisis. A description of someone seeking to hold on to their youth. How do these features factor into a Christian’s walk with Jesus?
Jesus’ call to follow him is not to be taken lightly. There are so many poor presentations of Christ resulting from improper theology. But if we go straight to the source (the Bible) of how Jesus called people to him, we can see clearly what Jesus meant by the call to follow him. Luke 14 – “26If anyone comes to me and does not hate his own father and mother and wife and children and brothers and sisters, yes, and even his own life, he cannot be my disciple. 27 Whoever does not bear his own cross and come after me cannot be my disciple. 28 For which of you, desiring to build a tower, does not first sit down and count the cost, whether he has enough to complete it? 29 Otherwise, when he has laid a foundation and is not able to finish, all who see it begin to mock him, 30 saying, ‘This man began to build and was not able to finish.”
This is not the only place Jesus told people to consider carefully what it meant to follow him, before committing to follow him. In Luke 9 it says – “57 As they were going along the road, someone said to him, “I will follow you wherever you go.” 58 And Jesus said to him, “Foxes have holes, and birds of the air have nests, but the Son of Man has nowhere to lay his head.” 59 To another he said, “Follow me.” But he said, “Lord, let me first go and bury my father.” 60 And Jesus[g] said to him, “Leave the dead to bury their own dead. But as for you, go and proclaim the kingdom of God.” 61 Yet another said, “I will follow you, Lord, but let me first say farewell to those at my home.” 62 Jesus said to him, “No one who puts his hand to the plow and looks back is fit for the kingdom of God.”
I think the Apostle Paul gives the best explanation succinctly on what it means to follow Jesus with his statement in Galatians 2 – 20 I have been crucified with Christ. It is no longer I who live, but Christ who lives in me. And the life I now live in the flesh I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me. Being a disciple of Jesus means your old identity will die and in its place Jesus’ identity will rise. This is where the tension of self-identification and true discipleship comes to play for a Christian. Which identifying features of yourself do you value most? If Jesus puts these features to death, will it be worth it to you to follow him and lose yourself? I find in being a pastor and leading people and having the unique opportunity to dialogue with two very different cultures between Uganda and America, the universal challenge with discipleship is the tension of boundaries we wish to maintain on how Christ-like we become. A young friend of mine just asked me for advice saying neighbors have been stealing bananas from his mother’s matooke plantation, so they started treating the neighbors coldly and the neighbors quit stealing. But my friend’s heart was convicted that as Christians that wasn’t how they should handle the situation. We discussed scripture. The challenging question holding us back from obedience? What if God’s way leads to my possessions being taken away?
The way Jesus dissuaded people from following him was by showing that there were no conditional clauses in the contract of discipleship. We can not say Lord I will follow you anywhere except there. Or Lord, I will give you 20% of my income if you give me a salary of 100K per year. There’s no greater example of a conditional proposition of discipleship than what Jacob said to God the first time God spoke to him. Genesis 28 – “20 Then Jacob made a vow, saying, “If God will be with me and will keep me in this way that I go, and will give me bread to eat and clothing to wear, 21 so that I come again to my father’s house in peace, then the Lord shall be my God, 22 and this stone, which I have set up for a pillar, shall be God’s house. And of all that you give me I will give a full tenth to you.” God had just promised Jacob what he was going to do with him and his offspring, but Jacob responded with many IF clauses to his agreement to follow God. To put in a missionary context, it would be like me saying God I will go preach the gospel so long as I have plenty of food, clothes, a nice house, running water, electricity, and handy transportation.
When Jesus came on the scene of public ministry, he followed closely on the footsteps of John the Baptist. John was a renown public figure that the people generally regarded as a great prophet. But when Jesus appeared, the followers of John became jealous that people were no longer coming to them and were now going to Jesus. John’s reply gives a great truth to meditate on in our walk with Christ. John 3 – “27 John answered, “A person cannot receive even one thing unless it is given him from heaven. 28 You yourselves bear me witness, that I said, ‘I am not the Christ, but I have been sent before him.’ 29 The one who has the bride is the bridegroom. The friend of the bridegroom, who stands and hears him, rejoices greatly at the bridegroom’s voice. Therefore this joy of mine is now complete. 30 He must increase, but I must decrease.”
Following Jesus means our identity will decrease and his will increase. This is not easy. When the Bible speaks of putting our former self to death, it speaks literally about the death of how we used to view ourselves. Everything is hidden in Christ. I’ve been going through this tension in a new way for the past almost two years with spinal surgeries and loss of ability and function in my body. I had a friend at a former workplace who used to say that if there was something that weighed less than 400lbs, we just let halski move it himself. My dad used to joke that we Polish are not very bright but can make things work by might. Now, even my 4-year-old and wife rebuke me for lifting things. It’s been revealing to see my own revolt against God’s stripping away of identifying features of myself that I didn’t know were so important to me until God took them away. A few months ago, awake in the night with pain, I asked God in desperation when he was going to give me back my life. It was a moment of prayer where you voice your complaint and then are overwhelmed by the folly of how you’ve been looking at things. Would we really rather have our former identity back than have the life Christ gives us? But herein lies the problem of discipleship, it is a crisis in identity. It must be Christ who lives through us. It must be Christ who acts in us. It must be Christ that people perceive on us. Whatever traits of mine are not part of his identity must be let go of. This is what it means to follow Jesus.
